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Want more options?

Sometimes we find ourselves in a situation where we feel stuck. No matter what we do, we seem to keep getting a result that we don’t want. We’re trying to create one thing but ending up with another.

It can be really frustrating. And it can sometimes lead to a change in our overall outlook about our business, what we’re capable of and what’s even possible.

It’s a slippery slope from frustration and stagnation into negative self talk and limited thinking that then keep this loop going. You get stuck in a perpetual loop of creating what you don’t want.

If you have experienced this before or are in the midst of it right now, that’s great. What do I mean it’s great? Surely it’s anything but great?!

Well… of course what I mean is, the fact that you can see that you are stuck is great. Because that is self awareness and it’s the very first step to getting unstuck. The question then often becomes how?

This is essentially what I do as a coach. I help clients create options to get them out of that loop of creating what they don’t want. Often what keeps us stuck is something we call a “blindspot”. And as the name suggests, it makes us effectively unable to see something. That’s where a qualified coach can make all the difference.

We all have blindspots. But it is tricky to see our own blindspots. If you are struggling to move forward and feeling frustrated, working with a coach can help you to open up options and find new ways. This in turn leads to different results, to breakthroughs and finding resources you never knew you had.

If this sounds like something you need, don’t hesitate to get in touch. To book a complimentary Coaching Introductory Session, click here.

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Be aware of your expectations

Today I have a quick quiz for all Solopreneurs: Have you felt any of the following emotions about your business in the last month…
frustration?
disappointment?
despair?
disillusionment?

If you’re answering “yes” to any of those, you’re not alone! The solopreneur journey is a challenging one. It can be a winding path that seems to be littered with these potholes of various negative emotions. You set yourself right again and then, wham, another setback. Is it really going to be like this all the way?

Good News: It doesn’t have to be!

While you can’t control all of your outcomes and successes, the good news is that you can control what you think about them. More specifically, you can control what you expect.

You can reduce the emotional rollercoaster if you become aware of what you are expecting. Having expectations about things means having a view of the way we think things will play out. If things don’t play out the way we expect, we’re suddenly disappointed and it takes us by surprise. It sounds crazy when you put it in black and white like this. But yes, we humans expect things to go a certain way (somehow predicting the future?) and then we beat ourselves up when we are wrong. In this way we suffer the emotional ups and downs acutely.

By becoming aware and acknowledging our expectations about things, we can take responsibility for any emotions that may result. Basically, we can create less drama when we look at the expectations that we have of our goals, our relationships and ourselves. Become very aware of what you’re expecting and notice how that influences your emotions.