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February 16, 2019 by solopreneurcoach

Why is change so hard?

If  change is a natural part of our lives then why is it sometimes so hard?
Anyone  who  has  set  and  attempted  to  achieve  goals  knows  all  about  this.  Anyone  who  has  tried  to  break  a  habit,  create  a  new  habit,  adjust  to  living  in  a  new  city  or  without  someone  you  love…  you know  the  challenges  of  change.  

I mean just think about the last time you moved house or changed jobs. Do you have fond memories of that experience? Or did it feel chaotic at best? The  nature  of  change  is  unsettling especially  when  it’s  on  our own  doorstep messing with our routine, our work or our  relationship!
It can feel like a big challenge!

So  why do we all find it so challenging?  

Here are  a few key reasons why most of us struggle with change:
Change  alters  our  world
Change  interrupts  how  we  normally  go  about  things  and  how  we  cope  with  things  in  the  world.  We’re kind  of  knocked  off  our  usual  track  and  it’s,  well,  bumpy. Instead of doing things the way we’ve always done them, we’re having to do it differently and our brains don’t like that. It takes us longer to do it and requires more cognitive effort. So change is making it literally challenging for our brains to adjust to the new way of doing things.

Change  affects  our  notion  of  who  we  are
Change  challenges  our  beliefs  and  our  closely  held  values. This is really the major shake-up for most of us after experiencing a loss of some sort. Whether it was a break-up or death of someone you love, such a big change really shifts our beliefs and values. When this happens, our  very  concept  of  who  we  are  is  called  into  question. 

Change  can  trigger  anxiety
Change  within  our  relationships  and  ties  with  others  is the most unsettling. When these close bonds are disrupted or torn apart, it causes most of  us  to  feel  anxious.  When the sense of attachment or belonging is threatened or lost, it will trigger anxiety in all of us humans because we all want acceptance and love. This need is primal and goes back to the way our brains are wired. So there’s no escaping this one- sorry!

Change  signifies  an  end
Change  is  a  shift  from  the  old  to  the  new.  It  is  both  a  beginning  and  an  end.Depending  on  the  nature  of  change,  this  can  cause  a  sense  of  loss.  If you’ve felt yourself pining for or reminiscing about the past… that’s all to do with dealing with an ending.  Of course the reality is, we can’t have a new beginning without an end. So an end can always be be viewed as an opportunity to begin again.

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